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EMOTIONAL CLEANSING

by Nora Isaacs

ON A FINE AUTUMN DAY, Elizabeth Arleo stood at the ocean's edge. In her hand was a rock, which symbolized the humiliation she felt from a lifelong struggle with her weight. As she threw the rock into the sea, she imagined letting go of this shaming emotion and replacing it with positive energy; when the rock pierced the water, she experienced an immediate sense of relief. "I felt a lightness," says Arleo, 42, an attorney from San Diego, Calif. "It was a joyful experience.
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Whether related to weight, work, or relationships, most of us have stored up toxic feelings that make us feel sluggish and dull. Trying a juice fast in response might refresh your body, but any physical cleanse will fall short unless you first detox your mind.


"If we do the emotional work, the other levels tend to blossom," says Richard Faulds, a senior teacher at Kripalu Center for Yoga & Health and the author of Kripalu Yoga: A Guide to Practice On and Off the Mat If you're stuck in the past and can't enjoy the present, an emotional cleanse may be just what you need.

MEET YOUR NEEDS

"UNRESOLVED ISSUES make life less enjoyable," says David Simon, co-founder and medical director of the Chopra Center for Wellbeing at the La Costa Resort & Spa in Carlsbad, Calif., and leader of the "Healing the Heart" workshop that prompted Arleo's rock ritual. "A history of unmet needs erodes your sense of vitality, self-esteem, and sense of worthiness--and often leads to distressing emotional residue.
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This history can forge layers of emotional armor that leave you desensitized. "When blocks prevent you from inhabiting your full range of emotions, you lose the low notes--but you also lose the high notes," says Faulds. "If you lose the ability to feel sadness, you lose the ability to feel bliss.
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Meanwhile, the pressure just keeps building, and the resulting toxicity can have devastating physical effects. At Kripalu, Faulds sees visitors with unresolved issues and emotional baggage who suffer from a variety of physical symptoms, including chronic neck or back pain, migraines, fatigue, insomnia, and low immune response. Research also links these emotional conflicts to more serious illnesses (such as heart disease), as well as to anxiety, panic attacks, and depression.

THE TURNING POINT

IT'S EASY TO GO THROUGH LIFE sweeping emotional issues under the carpet--then one day it's not so simple anymore. "There's a point where the pain of ignoring an emotion outweighs the pain of dealing with it," notes Simon. This may occur after a specific event, such as a divorce, the death of a loved one, or a job layoff. For others, it stems from a sense that more is possible.


Emotional detoxification often leads to revitalization and personal reinvention. "The energy that was used to suppress the pain is now available for creative options," explains Simon.


Elizabeth Arleo declares that her detox experience changed her outlook on life. Recently, she missed a self-imposed deadline at work. "Normally I would have felt downtrodden and shameful about it," she says, "but this time I didn't suffer or beat myself up. Instead I thought, I'll just correct that. And I moved on.
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7 STEP EMOTIONAL DETOX PLAN

HOW TO LET GO - The best preparation for releasing old pain is to designate a concentrated period of time to deal with it. You can't sweep away a lifetime of toxicity in a weekend, but you can certainly get the process started. Here are David Simon's seven steps toward emotional cleansing and the promise of a healthier, happier future.


1. OWN YOUR FEELINGS.
If you constantly blame other people, it's likely they're reflecting qualities in yourself that you haven't fully acknowledged, says Simon. If you're serious about an emotional detox, it's time to stop being reactive and to start accepting responsibility for your emotions.


2. IDENTIFY THE EMOTION.
If you bury your feelings, you can't complete this essential task. Simon recommends formulating a sentence: "I feel--" Fill in the blank with whatever toxic emotions you're storing up, such as anger, sadness, shame, rage, or loneliness. "As clearly as possible, define and describe what you're feeling," counsels Simon.


3. MONITOR YOUR BODY.
The energy of an emotion must be dealt with before it can be processed further. Observe a feeling as it arises, and bring your awareness to any bodily reactions. "By simply experiencing the physical sensations," Simon notes, "some of the emotional charge will dissipate, allowing you to hear the message the emotion carries.
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4. CREATE A LITTLE SPACE.
Find a quiet time when you choose not to read the paper, watch TV, or engage in energy-draining conversations. Instead, listen to soothing music, eat healthy foods, get a massage, and do some yoga or deep breathing. "This creates the space you need to identify your issues and bring into more conscious awareness both the feelings and the patterns tied to a perpetual sense of emotional stress and lack of fulfillment," says Simon.


5. WRITE IT ALL DOWN.
As issues arise and emotions become clear, record them in a journal, or in a letter to yourself or to someone who has hurt you (don't send it, though!). "Allow similar memories to come to the surface and write about those as well," Simon advises. "Use language that accurately and fully expresses what you feel about the situation.
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6. FIND RELEASE THROUGH RITUAL.
Once you've identified the toxicity, create a ritual to release it: Throw a rock into the ocean, dance, walk, breathe, listen to music, write a letter and burn it, call someone you've been avoiding--whatever helps you consciously let go of poisonous emotions and symbolizes what is shifting. If you'd prefer to share your ritual with a friend, find someone you trust who'll be empathetic without attempting to solve or judge your problem.


7. REWARD YOURSELF.
Enjoy a gourmet meal, luxurious bath, or day off. "It takes conscious awareness and a commitment to personal growth to go through the process of emotional release," says Simon, "so reward yourself for your good work.
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TRANSCENDING THE EGO'S GAME
by Margot Zaher and Jafree Ozwald
enlightenedbeings. com
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What kind of game is your ego playing? Hide and Seek? Chess? Monopoly? Everybody's ego has a certain way of relating to the world in order to get its needs met. When you were young, your ego/mind adopted one primary way of interacting with the world in order to cope with deep feelings of being disconnected from Source. Each of us chose to embrace some sort of ego game because we craved, deep in our souls, to be reunited with the intense feelings of love that come from living in Source. We mistakenly believed that if we joined one of the ego games that everybody around us was playing, we would naturally feel these great feelings. As we grew older and bought more and more into the illusion of being disconnected from Source, we unconsciously began projecting this separate, helpless, powerless ego-self onto our relationships and our lives.

"Life is a mirror. When you smile at it, it is charming and when you frown at it, it is a sinister. It is what you are and not what you see.
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--unknown

Whenever your ego feels somehow threatened or uncomfortable, it uses its coping strategies to manipulate the world and get whatever it desires. Your ego adopts certain attitudes, beliefs, judgments and ways of appearing to others to get its needs met. It's this combination of masks and cunningness that make up your ego game. For instance, one person may have a game of being nice to everybody they meet, to get everyone to like them. Another person may be rude, authoritative, mean and nasty with people to keep everyone at a distance and feel powerful. Games like these are what the ego plays in order to get love, approval, appreciation and at a deeper level to discover a profound connection to the divine essence of who they truly are.

"The truth is the truth even if no one believes it, and a lie is a lie even if everyone believes it.
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--Tim Reeter

While others can almost always see our games easily (especially those who are in an intimate relationship with us), we are often blind to the ego game we are playing inside. We may even fight someone who tries to show us the truth of the game we are engaged in. The ego would rather be right about its opinion, than happy or peaceful. It keeps you mesmerized by the drama of the situation, so that you don't have to see the divine brilliance of your authentic Self. If the ego actually saw how totally amazing, wildly exotic, powerful and truly blessed you actually are, it would have to die. The fastest way out of any suffering that you are encountering is learning how to see the game your ego is repetitively playing.


Once you pierce the veil of your ego's strategy, and surrender to a deeper connection with Source, you can begin to experience true freedom on all levels of your life and have authentic heart-based loving relationships. Once you truly are free of your ego games, you can connect with ANYONE from a profound space of truth, love and see the real beauty that is inherent in all human beings. Discovering and transcending your ego's game is one of the most challenging, yet beautiful gifts you can give yourself.

"You can tell more about a person by what he says about others than what others say about him.
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--Leo Aikman





Identifying Your Illusionary Ego

To help you identify your illusionary ego, here are a few common ego game identities that people play with. Each of these ego identities holds a belief about itself and copes with the world by embodying this way of being.

- Mr.
Defensive:
"I want nobody to like me. If I am unlovable, I can never be hurt again.
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- Mr.
Enlightened:
"I am above it all and don't have any problems or places where I need to grow in my life. Everybody else has problems.
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- Mr.
Nice Guy:
"I want everybody to like me. I am a really a great and loving person.
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- Miss.
Perfect:
"Everything must be perfect in my world. If things are not in order something terrible will happen.
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- Miss.
Lone Ranger:
"I don't need anybody to help me. I am so strong and independent.
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- Miss SuperGirl:
"I must be successful at all costs. If I am not successful, I am nothing.
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One of the most important things that you can do is figure out the ego game that is running your life. The first clue to look at how you tend to act, behave and respond to others generally, specifically when you are feeling uncomfortable. Most people revert back to one way of operating and repeat it over and over their entire life. This game runs every aspect of their lives from their personal life to their financial life. For instance, if your ego plays the Superman or SuperGirl game, your whole life may be about accomplishment to such an extent that you only think of things as how will this help you be more successful. You may ignore your relationships in favor of professional success, or even use relationships to help you create more success. The point is that you build your life around whatever game your ego wants to play and this may stop you from having the kind of life you truly love.


The biggest game of all however is believing that your ego is real. It's about as real as a mirage in the desert. You walk up to a mirage and think there is an oasis of water there, yet when you reach into it you only pull up a handful of sand. When we hold onto this illusion that the ego exists, we remain trapped in the cyclical wheel of suffering forever. The truth is that the game you are playing will eventually blow up like a balloon and explode! This way may be painful, yet you will one day see how the ego never truly satisfies. Only finding your true authentic self will satisfy you, and truly abolish the illusionary ego from its grip on you forever.


It is difficult to manifest what you truly desire when your ego is in the way. It causes an energetic block to the feelings and thoughts that allow your dreams to manifest. Uncovering your ego game will make you into a manifesting magician! It will set you soooo free so that you stay focused in the direction of your dreams and naturally attract whatever you desire.


Remember that behind this ego masquerade is what you have been searching for, the infinite loving essence that loves every part of who you are. So let's strip off that ego mask today, and discover the truth of who you really are. You deserve to live from the most enlightened place of all, where you know yourself as the Divine Authentic Self.

There is a hard way to get what you want and there is an easy way. Which one would you like to choose? The answer is obvious, everybody wants the easy way, but most people are not even aware the easy way truly exists.

Most of us have been told, since the moment we were born, that in order to succeed in life, we have to work hard and struggle. It has been said "no pain, no gain". For most people, life is just a long series of struggles.

If that is what you feel,I have good news for you; there is an easy way, which leads to your ultimate destiny in the most stress free manner.

Listen carefully, because this is going to determine whether your life is fulfilling, happy and stress-free, which means a high quality of living. Here is the ultimate secret of the universe "Change the way you look at things and the things you look at will change."

Pay special attention to these words, and really think about what they mean. Yes, I hear what you are saying. You have heard it a million times. Everybody knows it. If this is what you are thinking, I must warn you not to take these words lightly.

I can tell you 90% of people read these words, and don't understand what they truly mean. You can tell by simply watching their lives.

If you are not living a happy fulfilled life RIGHT NOW, I can tell you "you do not truly understand these words". Then let's get down to the deep understanding of this golden rule of success.

We are living in a material world, which is made up of molecules, which are made up of atoms, which in turn are made up of sub-atomic particles. These sub-atomic particles act at our commands and come into existence only when we observe it.

Let's see what scientists have to say about these amazing building blocks of this world. The sub-atomic particle is a kind of wave packet, which can be in the state of wave and particle simultaneously. We describe a particle by its location, and we describe a wave by its momentum. However, the sub-atomic particle can exist as a particle and a wave at the same time.

This sounds very counterintuitive, but it is true. Either the sub-atomic particle becomes a particle or a wave.It depends on how you measure it. If you decide to measure it by its location, it becomes a particle instantly, if you decide to measure by its momentum, it becomes a wave instantly. It all depends on how we measure (or how we observe) it.

Deepak Chopra in his book, "Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desire", described a thought experiment by Erwin Schr?dinger.

Imagine you have a closed box that contains a wave-particle, a cat, a lever, and a bowl of cat fool with a loose lid. If the wave-particle becomes a particle, the particle will trip the lid, and the cat will eat. If the wave-particle becomes a wave, the lid will remain on the food. When we open the box (making an observation), we will either see an empty bowl and a happy cat or a full bowl and a hungry cat.

It all depends on how we observe. Before we open the box, the bowl is both empty and full, and the cat is both fed and hungry. Both possibilities exist at the same time. Deepak says "It is the observation alone that turns possibility into reality."

The whole point is that the basic building block of the material world acts at our command. At the very moment of our observation, it comes into existence. We are the creator of our world. Nothing will exist without our observation.

How does that relate to manifesting your desires? Well, it has everything to do with manifesting your desires. Why does our life seem like a struggle? Why don't we get the money we want? Why don't we get the relationship that we always desire to have? Why is our life filled with long list of never-ending problems?

All of these are because of our habitual way of observing the world. We have been conditioned that what we are seeing is the reality, and we continue to live this way and continue to observe the same things happening in our lives.

Let me tell you, your reality is not reality. Only you choose and observe it to be your reality.

As soon as you realize your own observation is the cause of everything, then you can decide to create another reality literally. You can decide to observe another reality into your world.

How do you do it?
First, don't allow your outer world to elude you, knowing that this is not necessarily the reality.

Secondly, observe exactly what you want in your mind, observe it with certainty and clarity, and then let go. Knowing that you have already created your desires at the quantum level, you simply let the universe arrange for it to come to you.

When the opportunities come, don't forget to take action and express your gratitude. Everything begins with you changing the way you look at your world.

Remember "Change the way you look at things and the things you look at will change."

LOOKING FORWARD TO HEARING YOUR SUCCESS STORIES ,

Indigo's & Crystals--Finding Normal
Source: www.urielheals.
com

Each week I hear from many Indigo adults and young people who ask
the same question, how do they create a 'normal' life for
themselves.
They want to know which is their best path and what will
make them happy.
And they also want relief from the indecision and
confusion that they experience every time they look at their life
path and wonder which direction is right for them.
My answer is
always the same, that as Indigos they came here to create new and
different opportunities for themselves and their best path is
whatever they choose.
Whatever brings them joy and abundance
is 'normal' for them.


To be confused about life is part of the Indigo energy and their
greatest challenge is to harness their energies to create a life and
lifestyle that meets their needs, ignoring what others expect them
to do or think they should do.
Indigos do best in creative,
unrestricted environments, so the corporate world is usually not for
them.
But gathering their courage and building their confidence to a
level that allows them to step boldly into an innovative career path
is a challenge.
It would be helpful if they had an upbringing that
inspired them to do those things and many did not.


I am also often asked why Indigos had such difficult childhood
experiences, and many of them, both adults and young Indigos,
suffered abuse, neglect, emotional trauma and abandonment.
That
hardly seems like a good start to build confidence and inspire free
thinking.
But they had to learn about the energies they came to
change and this was part of their challenge.
They have a choice to
make with their life experiences, they can use them to create a
better life for themselves or they can sink into anger, despair and
depression and stay mired in the past.


There is not a pre-defined state of 'normal', for this generation,
as they would not like it anyway.
Whatever brings them joy and
abundance is the path they should follow.
Whatever they are
passionate about is what will become normal and they will help
create that for others as well.
Each generation creates new
opportunities and options and Indigos are here to move us beyond
what we 'should' do to be 'normal' and to boldly step into what best
fits our passion, desires and gifts and make that the benchmark for
our life path.
Soon, the concept of 'normal' will be a thing of the
past and we will be into the energy of 'being' and everyone will
contribute according to their gifts and the Indigos, who are
ushering in this energy, will have done their work.


www.urielheals.
com

What Do You Really Want?



So much of our pain and sorrow comes from seeking fulfillment in places and ways in which it is not possible.

We can never get enough of that which we don't really want in the first place. As such, despair comes not from an inability to get what we go after, but rather from going after that which we don't want, and failing to pursue that which would truly bring fulfillment.

Though a nutritional deficiency will make you hungry, it won't be corrected by eating junk food, no matter how much of it you eat. Emotional pain cannot be solved by drugs and alcohol. And an emptiness in your life, cannot be filled by just anything that comes along.

It takes effort to look beyond the superficial, and to discover what is truly meaningful in your life. Yet the reward is great, because it sets you free from the struggle and pain associated with things you don't really want anyway.



-- Ralph Marston
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